Dance of a Beautiful Woman

I was having lunch with friends yesterday and our conversation led us to talking about why we are here, our purpose in life ect. but one point that was made really stood out for me – the past only exists in our minds. The way that my friend expressed this was so perfect and I believe it adds more depth to the idea that we have control over our lives. If the past ONLY exists in our minds then we truly have power over it instead of the other way around!

Use this power to your advantage. If we are being conscious about our lives then we are better today than we were yesterday. Only allow the parts of your past access to your mind that will help you, comfort you, teach you, remind you, build you up, make you strong, keep you strong, I think you get the idea! YOU have the control over what has already happened in your life, every bit as much as you have control over RIGHT NOW and the way you use this power will create what transpires in the future.

Be aware of how you use your mind in regards to all things. My girlfriend Peggy McColl wrote a great article called “The Choice To Feel” (it’s on her mentor page at Girlfriend Mentors) and it goes hand in hand with how you choose your thoughts.

Allowing the past to influence who you are can be very ineffective for creating a life of happiness. Your past thoughts, feelings, and actions have brought you to the present. The results you have NOW were determined by YOUR past thoughts, feelings, and actions. Are you where you want to be? If you are not, then consider taking the power that you have over your mind which determines what you will feel and what you will experience and how you will ACT.

If you find yourself thinking something negative about the past – CHANGE YOUR MIND! Don’t dwell on anything from the past that does not serve your higher good. EVER. Remember, the past ONLY exists in your mind.

How many things in your life go undone because they are not yet perfect in your mind? This is something I have personally struggled with, however, I am deliberately choosing not to be afflicted with this dream killer any longer. I consciously make choices to get to the action and out of creating the “perfect” plan. In most cases a project cannot be perfect until it is tested and tweaked anyway.

We all have AHA! moments in our life and some of us even act on them. It is possible that you are unaware of how waiting until you get it “right” or “perfect” before you begin is keeping you from being more productive.? Think about it, we all have the same amount of time. Why do some people just get so much done than others? Perhaps they put more effort in action activities rather than planning activities, they intuitively know when a plan is ready to be tried and they aren’t tied up in planning to plan to plan etc.

I am not saying that you should not plan. Planning is essential to success. However, getting your plan into action is the best way to get it closer to the “perfection” many of us feel compelled to create. You have to test it out and then make modifications. No plan survives contact with it’s intended audience completely intact.

With this in mind, I am sharing Allison Maslan’s article on the topic with you. I found it to be quite timely for myself and I hope it will set you on a path to being more productive as well! I especially love what she says about missing out on the “juiciness” of your life. Gosh, you don’t want that to happen!

Is Your Strive For Perfection Choking You? By Allison Maslan

Are you living your life to the fullest at this moment in time? Do you have the life that you have always dreamed of? If so, congratulations! Meditate a few moments each day on the goodness that you have experienced from your great fortune. If your answer is no, it is never too late to start. So many of my coaching clients tell me they don’t reach their goals because they want everything perfect before they move forward.
They are striving for perfection and it is killing them. They want a perfectly clean house, to say the perfect words and to do perfect work at all times. What is the point of “perfect” anyway? Pressure filled expectations are a sure way to turn any goal into a ball and chain. Many people resist attempting new challenges or setting new goals because they are afraid they will not perform to their ridiculous level of expectation.
As a result, they give up before they ever begin. Then the feelings of disappointment and failure set in. I started taking modern dance in my 30s. The room was full of young women and men that had been dancing since childhood. My mind was aghast as the dance instructor got in front of the class and proceeded to dance several eloquent steps that we were supposed to immediately mirror. I knew I was in trouble as the class was spinning one way and I was tripping the other way (Picture I Love Lucy and the Rockettes).
Through this experience, I learned to laugh at myself and let go of the notion of doing it perfectly. It was not possible for me to keep up with these experts; and attempting to do so was way too much pressure. Once the light bulb came on that I could do something for the fun of it, I relaxed about the outcome. And wouldn’t you know it, I was able to perform in several dance presentations and I had a blast.
If you are not putting yourself out there, reaching toward what you really want because you are afraid of not being perfect, you are missing out on the juiciness of your life. It is the non-perfect part that will be most memorable and uniquely you.
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Allison Maslan, HHP, CCH is a homeopathic physician and the author of Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan To Launch Your Dreams Into Reality. As a life and business coach, she helps people create a new business and the best chapter of their lives.
The exciting launch of her book, Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan To Launch Your Dreams Into Reality is coming Tuesday, January 19. To find out how you can buy the book and receive more than 20 beautiful mind-body-spirit gifts during the launch, go to www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch.

I have provided a 30 day free trial of my member based site www.girlfriendmentors.net for anyone participating in Allison’s book launch. Enjoy!

Living outside your comfort zone is something many people will avoid at all costs. But this is where the most precious moments in life are found. Why? Because it stretches us and creates new experiences that we would not have otherwise. Some of the experiences are internal and some are external. They are all precious, so let’s talk about how you go about stretching your comfort zone and what you will gain from doing so.

An experience that brought me the most profound understanding of “getting outside my comfort zone” was when I was first building Girlfriend Mentors. I had to get mentors lined up to create the site before I could have people coming to the site. One of the mentors I was trying to recruit was short with me and criticized the website before it was finished. I began feeling like I didn’t know what I was doing, I was way out of my league, etc etc. But then it hit me. I was OUTSIDE of my comfort zone and it is OKAY to feel this way! This is the feeling that keeps people from moving forward. Let me say that again. This is the feeling that keeps people from moving forward.

So let’s dissect the situation I just described.

A. I was contacting very successful women. Women who were much more successful than me. So, I was going into the phone calls a little nervous.
B. By the time I contacted the mentor I described above I had received some very positive feedback on the website. But I had made some changes and not tested it in a variety of web browsers when I talked to this particular mentor.
C. She was about to launch her biggest program to date and was in a crunch. When I called her, I was so nervous about it that I just launched into my dialogue without asking for her time. She booked an interview with me, but as I described above, I hung up feeling very inadequate.
D. I had my AHA! moment of what it really MEANS to get outside of your comfort zone. I analyzed the situation and took the following actions:
• I sent her an email confirming our interview date and prefaced it with an apology that I didn’t ask her for her time first.
• We created a nice rapport and had a very good interview that my members can use to leverage their knowledge and expertise into new revenue streams.

During that conversation, I was experiencing an uncomfortable feeling that would make many people stop and give up. But I realized that if I could push through this feeling it would stretch my comfort zone, and I would be stronger the next time I attempted this type of activity. My boundaries are stretching and my belief in what I am capable of doing or creating is stretching. There are no limits, just increments of understanding what you are capable of.

If you will expand your comfort zone, you will be able to many more things than you currently do. That’s why it is so important. Be present and aware whenever you feel uncomfortable in a situation. It is one of the “defining moments” that Tony Robbins talks about.

You could stay fearful and act the same way you always do. Or you could look openly at the situation. Notice how you are feeling. Ask yourself what you could do to make the situation better.

We all have reactionary feelings. It is when you become aware enough to CHOOSE how you feel and how you act, that you are capable of stretching your comfort zone.

It is a wonder of life to fully realize the power we have over the lives we live. I spent so many years reacting to the situations that came up. How much more freedom, happiness, and accomplishments I have experienced by being deliberate about the life I choose to live. I use a Power Life Script to create the picture of the life I want. Get a free guide on how to create one here: Power Script Guide which was created by one of my mentors, Peggy McColl, a New York times best-selling author, mentor, and speaker.

To give you an idea of how I use mine I will share my personal power script with you, I believe that the more we say our thoughts and feelings out loud for all to hear, the more power our words have over what we create in our lives. So here is the Power Life Script I wrote for myself. I read it aloud daily and it puts me in the right mindset to make what I want to experience a reality. Much of what you will read has already come true and other “creations” are still in the making! I encourage you not to turn away from this gift. It is a powerful tool that successful people use regularly. use it to create the life you really want to live. Create the life you desire to live and the world will benefit from your happiness.

Schall’s Power Life Script:

I am Schall and I love and honor my life! I love my husband, my son, my family, my friends and myself. I live an exceptional life, living by my highest values, seeking and growing in wisdom, discovering my genuine passions, mastering my talents, offering my special gifts and accepting rewards. I am exploring the world with full energy – radiating with joy, bubbling with enthusiasm, vibrating with positive emotions and feeling tremendously alive!

I have unlimited power that I use to create all that I desire from the unlimited possibilities and ultimate freedom that is my life. I strive for and create excellence in all my endeavors. I treasure each moment knowing that I am always in a state of creation and I rejoice in the new creations that unfold each day. I have found the balance between making things happen and letting things happen.

I live my truest life. Through meditation and by focusing internally I relax into my deepest truth. I speak my truth. I trust my instincts, intuition and feelings and have developed my intellect to serve my highest self and live my best life. I continue to develop, growing at all times.

I see that we are all connected, we are all one and my life is a journey. Each step on the path, whether it involves physical or inner movement, lands me at my destination, my goal, always the way I envisioned it or better.

I enjoy love, balance, harmony and peacefulness in all areas of my life. I enjoy open communication, loving relationships, playing, laughing and the company of my family and friends. My son and husband are my greatest joy and the loves of my life. I cherish them deeply. I spend quality time with both of them often.   We have wonderful relationships based on love, respect, admiration, honesty, acceptance, pure joy and a lot of humor. We celebrate each other’s gifts and our shared love and support empowers us to shine brightly in our lives. I lead by example and walk my talk.

I have loving, healthy, respectful and supportive relationships with my parents, siblings and their families. I embrace friendships and loving relationships with joy. I appreciate clear, open and honest communications, mutual respect and support, sharing ideas and dreams, and having fun. I practice forgiveness and give and receive love fully.

I am in a beautiful, loving and fulfilling marriage. We are soul mates yet we each stand as individuals, supportive of each other’s dreams, desires, passions, accomplishments and truths. We enjoy romance, shared interests, desires and passions, and the wonderment of transformation and discovery. We bring out the best in each other and we cherish every moment that we spend together.

I am fortunate to spend my time with people who I value and admire and engage in activities that bring me joy and fulfillment. I am inspired by the boundless beauty that surrounds me and by the people I meet. I bring out the best in others simply by sharing the best of myself.

I live in a beautiful, luxurious, comfortable and secure home surrounded by gorgeous gardens that are part natural and part my design and creation. The gardens grow almost all of our food. I love the design, organization and energy flow in all areas of my home. My home is peaceful, harmonious and perfectly suited to me and my family. It is a wonderful enchanting place for guests. It is our haven and sanctuary.

I am an award winning author of a number of international bestselling books and several of my books have been on the New York Times Bestseller list. My books have been embraced by many and I am highly sought after to speak at literary, personal growth, leadership and elite performance events. I have had many wonderful opportunities to work with the masters and mentors who I greatly admire. I am living my purpose feeling joyful, enthusiastic, exhilarated, grateful and present. I am richly rewarded for a meaningful life that fulfills me.

I value the many successful, experienced and talented people in my life who are at the top of their fields and who support me in my quest to be the best that I can be. They advise, encourage and support my endeavors with enthusiasm and trust, knowing that I am now one of their peers. I share my special talents and brilliant insights with my mentors and friends from a loving heart and I know that I am also a mentor to many who seek the path of creating their highest self.

I am blessed with an outstanding team who supports me in all areas of my work, ensuring excellent planning and scheduling, sound organization, smooth operations and expert financial and business management. I am free to excel in the areas of greatest interest to me knowing that my affairs are well looked after and secure.

I express myself with ease, eloquence, creativity and honesty. I love words and I am an articulate speaker and writer. I enjoy literature and language and am talented at turning phrases, painting pictures with words, bringing words to life, evoking feelings, creating moments and touching hearts. I artfully blend my creativity with technique, expertise and knowledge into my life’s work and passion.

I am a world renowned blues singer who has created a new category of blues where the message is one of joy and hope to the rich sound of blues arrangements. I play the guitar expertly and write all of my own songs. I am thrilled with the music awards I have won for my craft. I am a lover of the arts and I enjoy visiting theatres, concerts, art exhibitions and museums at home and all around the world, especially with my curious husband by my side. I accept new ideas and challenges with courage, determination, enthusiasm and a desire to learn.

The organization I have founded, Girlfriend Mentors, is creating millions of healthy minded women committed to developing themselves for the good of all. This is some of my most rewarding creativity. I am bound to them all in the spirit of friendship, trust, and inspiration. Together we are healing our planet in the spirit of cooperation.

I am financially independent, prosperous and abundantly wealthy with my company earning millions of dollars each month. I understand and oversee my finances with confidence and with the support of a trustworthy, reliable and talented financial team. I make substantial donations to my favorite charities and institutions annually. I bless the money that I spend to bring good fortune and abundance to all who receive it.

I exercise daily and treat myself with respect and love, making healthy food and lifestyle choices. I am physically fit, lean, strong, athletic, flexible, and balanced. I am youthful, vital and vibrantly healthy. I am beautiful and I radiate love, harmony and peace. I possess a wonderful sense of self worth and well being. I move with grace, elegance and confidence. I am intuitive and insightful and I feel, see and interpret the energy within and around me and can influence that energy in positive ways to promote luxurious feelings of well-being.

I awake each morning feeling rested, refreshed, rejuvenated and energized. I approach each day with faith, a heart of gold and a positive outlook.  I honor my body, mind and spirit. I honor the people in my life and offer praise sincerely.

I embrace and thrive on new experiences. I enjoy traveling to new countries, cultures and environments. I travel wherever and whenever I want accompanied by either family, friends or both, but always people whose company I enjoy and whose presence enriches the experience.

I delight in the many pleasures that abound in the world and my heart is open to new enriching experiences. This attitude of openness and acceptance invites new wonderful friends and experiences into my life on a daily basis.

I release and share all the joy within me so that others may experience it too. I am filled with gratitude for the life I have created through the gifts that have been given to me.

I believe in the power of love, emotions, intentions, thought and words. I believe in miracles. I give daily thanks for the countless blessings and miracles that appear in my life. I am love and I am living my best life shining brightly and illuminating the world around me. I am grateful for all that I have. I am grateful for an awakened heart and free spirit. I send out blessings to all who read this…….love, Schall

For this first post I have chosen to share my thoughts about letting go. What I mean is, to let go of the ideas you may have of yourself. At least the ones that do not serve you well in this world. Usually we have some very real thoughts about who we are. We often have ourselves “defined” by events and interactions that have come before.

I come from a very negative past. I felt very unsure of myself. I was told negative things about myself on a regular basis. However, I have a natural tendency towards cheerfulness and I had also sought out personal development opportunities, so I learned to be relatively happy in spite of these feelings. Then one day it happened.

I was having a discussion with a co-worker and she said, “Yes, but you are so confident.” You must picture a lightening bolt right through my whole being! It hit me in the most profound way. When people looked at me they saw a “confident” woman. It turned my understanding of who I was and what I was doing upside down. Inside out even! Think of this. I FELT unsure, but people who interacted with me saw a capable, confident woman.

My next realization was this: If people saw me as a confident person then I could BE a confident person. Afterall, my opinion of myself was shaped by what I thought others thought of me. I had to let go of what others thought of me, but more importantly what I “thought” people thought about me. It’s not that it doesn’t matter what others think of us. It does. But not to the degree that we define who we are by their picture of us.

I was not a beautiful child or a beautiful teenager, yet I became a beautiful woman. Growing up I heard things like, “your hair is so stringy” or “wow a little make up really helps” and “your teeth are like a rodent”. In fact my little sister was called “rat face” yet I look at the pictures now of when she was younger and realize she was quite pretty – another testament for not listening to the negative impressions people have of us.

As a young girl and a young woman I did not feel that great about myself. I had a different kind of look that some were attracted to but others were not. I always knew I wasn’t quite “Beautiful”. But I felt that there was something in me that was bigger in every area of my life. I was more than my circumstances. I was better than what some were giving me credit for. So when my co-worker described me as confident – it changed everything I “knew” about myself.

Understand that your picture of yourself is not necessarily real. Meaning, everything changes or is changeable. If you will consider releasing all negative thoughts about who you are you will be in the wonderful place of being able to invent yourself. Create the YOU that you want to be. First, let go of your current understanding of who you are and begin to imagine who you wish to be.

In my next post I will share processes that I have used to re-invent myself. I am creating who I want to be and the life I choose to live.

I encourage you to use these ACTION steps to start letting go of any negative concepts you have of yourself:

1. Begin to think about the possibility that you do not need to resign yourself to the current picture you have of yourself.

2. Conscioulsy let go of any negative ideas you have about yourself. When a negative picture of yourself comes up be conscious and aware and deliberately say no to it.

3. Ask a few people close to you to describe your best attributes and see if anything surprises you.

You can be anyone you choose to be, if you will let go of who you think you are.